Monday, June 2, 2014

Youth Groups Driving Christian Teens to Abandon Faith

This article was posted on FB by a rising college freshman. Interestingly, this young man who is interning for a Georgia legislator this summer, is a product of homeschool. 

Youth Groups Driving Christian Teens to Abandon Faith

teen girls 
A new study might reveal why a majority of Christian teens abandon their faith upon high school graduation. (lusi/rgbstock.com)

A new study might reveal why a majority of Christian teens abandon their faith upon high school graduation. Some time ago, Christian pollster George Barna documented that 61 percent of today's 20-somethings who had been churched at one point during their teen years are now spiritually disengaged. They do not attend church, read their Bible or pray.

According to a new five-week, three-question national survey sponsored by the National Center for Family-Integrated Churches (NCFIC), the youth group itself is the problem. Fifty-five percent of American Christians are concerned with modern youth ministry because it's too shallow and too entertainment-focused, resulting in an inability to train mature believers. But even if church youth groups had the gravitas of Dallas Theological Seminary, 36 percent of today's believers are convinced youth groups themselves are not even biblical.

After answering three questions at YouthGroupSurvey.com, each survey participant received NCFIC Director Scott Brown's e-book entitled Weed in the Church: How A Culture of Age Segregation Is Destroying the Younger Generation, Fragmenting the Family and Harming Church as well as access to a 50-minute-long documentary entitled Divided: Is Modern Youth Ministry Multiplying or Dividing the Church? (Divided has been viewed by 200,000 people.)

The survey is still active online through Friday, Nov. 8.

Adam McManus, a spokesman for NCFIC, is not surprised by the church's deep concerns about youth groups. 

"Today's church has created peer dependency," McManus says. "The inherent result of youth groups is that teenagers in the church are focused on their peers, not their parents or their pastors. It's a foreign sociology that leads to immaturity, a greater likelihood of sexual activity, drug experimentation and a rejection of the authority of the Word of God.

"Proverbs 13:20 says, 'He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.' The result is that the youth stumble, they can't see beyond their noses, and spiritual adolescence is prolonged well into adulthood. It's crippling the body of Christ. That's why it's time to return to the biblical paradigm and throw out the youth group structure entirely."

He continues, "I am greatly encouraged by the results of our survey. American Christians are finally waking up to the disconnect between the clear teaching in Scripture in favor of family-integration and the modern-day church's obsession with dividing the family at every turn. Age segregation, especially during the tender and impactful teenage years, not only hasn't worked, it's been detrimental. Even worse, it is contrary to the Bible. But the good news is that practices in the churches related to youth groups are changing dramatically. Twenty years ago no one was even asking this question."

McManus cited the following Scriptures to document his contention that it's God's will for the church to embrace the biblical model of families staying together in the service as the Word of God is preached: Deuteronomy 16:9-14, Joshua 8:34-35, Ezra 10:1, 2 Chronicles 20:13, Nehemiah 12:43 and Joel 2:15-16.

"Our fervent prayer is that God will raise up Spirit-filled, Bible-preaching, Christ-centered, family-integrated assemblies from the ashes of our man-centered, family-fragmenting churches," McManus adds. "Plus, the church needs to begin to equip Christian fathers to communicate the gospel to their families. Today, Christian parents are beginning to realize that they have not fulfilled their spiritual duties by simply dropping off their kiddos to Sunday school and youth group, allowing other parents to disciple their children by proxy.

"Let's not forget the powerful words spoken by Moses in Deuteronomy 6:4-7: 'Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.'

"It is the parents' primary obligation to disciple their own children, impressing God's commandments upon them in the home on a daily basis."

Cameron Cole, youth director at Cathedral Church of the Advent in Birmingham, Ala., says, "There is a propensity in our culture to outsource the development of our children. For intellectual development, we send them to school. For athletic development, we send them to Little League. And for spiritual formation, we send them to youth group. The church has done a poor job of communicating to the parents that they are the primary disciplers of their children. Parents don't believe this, but the reality is that kids listen to their parents far more than they're going to listen to a youth minister."

"It's time for the Christian father to take the central role which God has ordained," McManus concludes. "Gathered around the dining room table, the father needs to lead family worship once again, which had been standard behavior for a vibrant American Christian family for hundreds of years, dating back to the Plymouth, Mass., colony of 1620. Dad needs to read from and discuss the Bible, sing Christian songs and pray with his family, his little flock over which God has appointed him shepherd. Frankly, I'm not as concerned about what happens in Sunday school in church as I am with what happens in 'Monday school' and 'Tuesday school' at home with the family."

Youth Groups Driving Christian Teens to Abandon Faith

This article was posted on FB by a rising college freshman. Interestingly, this young man who is interning for a Georgia legislator this summer, is a product of homeschool. 

Youth Groups Driving Christian Teens to Abandon Faith

teen girls 
A new study might reveal why a majority of Christian teens abandon their faith upon high school graduation. (lusi/rgbstock.com)

A new study might reveal why a majority of Christian teens abandon their faith upon high school graduation. Some time ago, Christian pollster George Barna documented that 61 percent of today's 20-somethings who had been churched at one point during their teen years are now spiritually disengaged. They do not attend church, read their Bible or pray.

According to a new five-week, three-question national survey sponsored by the National Center for Family-Integrated Churches (NCFIC), the youth group itself is the problem. Fifty-five percent of American Christians are concerned with modern youth ministry because it's too shallow and too entertainment-focused, resulting in an inability to train mature believers. But even if church youth groups had the gravitas of Dallas Theological Seminary, 36 percent of today's believers are convinced youth groups themselves are not even biblical.

After answering three questions at YouthGroupSurvey.com, each survey participant received NCFIC Director Scott Brown's e-book entitled Weed in the Church: How A Culture of Age Segregation Is Destroying the Younger Generation, Fragmenting the Family and Harming Church as well as access to a 50-minute-long documentary entitled Divided: Is Modern Youth Ministry Multiplying or Dividing the Church? (Divided has been viewed by 200,000 people.)

The survey is still active online through Friday, Nov. 8.

Adam McManus, a spokesman for NCFIC, is not surprised by the church's deep concerns about youth groups. 

"Today's church has created peer dependency," McManus says. "The inherent result of youth groups is that teenagers in the church are focused on their peers, not their parents or their pastors. It's a foreign sociology that leads to immaturity, a greater likelihood of sexual activity, drug experimentation and a rejection of the authority of the Word of God.

"Proverbs 13:20 says, 'He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.' The result is that the youth stumble, they can't see beyond their noses, and spiritual adolescence is prolonged well into adulthood. It's crippling the body of Christ. That's why it's time to return to the biblical paradigm and throw out the youth group structure entirely."

He continues, "I am greatly encouraged by the results of our survey. American Christians are finally waking up to the disconnect between the clear teaching in Scripture in favor of family-integration and the modern-day church's obsession with dividing the family at every turn. Age segregation, especially during the tender and impactful teenage years, not only hasn't worked, it's been detrimental. Even worse, it is contrary to the Bible. But the good news is that practices in the churches related to youth groups are changing dramatically. Twenty years ago no one was even asking this question."

McManus cited the following Scriptures to document his contention that it's God's will for the church to embrace the biblical model of families staying together in the service as the Word of God is preached: Deuteronomy 16:9-14, Joshua 8:34-35, Ezra 10:1, 2 Chronicles 20:13, Nehemiah 12:43 and Joel 2:15-16.

"Our fervent prayer is that God will raise up Spirit-filled, Bible-preaching, Christ-centered, family-integrated assemblies from the ashes of our man-centered, family-fragmenting churches," McManus adds. "Plus, the church needs to begin to equip Christian fathers to communicate the gospel to their families. Today, Christian parents are beginning to realize that they have not fulfilled their spiritual duties by simply dropping off their kiddos to Sunday school and youth group, allowing other parents to disciple their children by proxy.

"Let's not forget the powerful words spoken by Moses in Deuteronomy 6:4-7: 'Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.'

"It is the parents' primary obligation to disciple their own children, impressing God's commandments upon them in the home on a daily basis."

Cameron Cole, youth director at Cathedral Church of the Advent in Birmingham, Ala., says, "There is a propensity in our culture to outsource the development of our children. For intellectual development, we send them to school. For athletic development, we send them to Little League. And for spiritual formation, we send them to youth group. The church has done a poor job of communicating to the parents that they are the primary disciplers of their children. Parents don't believe this, but the reality is that kids listen to their parents far more than they're going to listen to a youth minister."

"It's time for the Christian father to take the central role which God has ordained," McManus concludes. "Gathered around the dining room table, the father needs to lead family worship once again, which had been standard behavior for a vibrant American Christian family for hundreds of years, dating back to the Plymouth, Mass., colony of 1620. Dad needs to read from and discuss the Bible, sing Christian songs and pray with his family, his little flock over which God has appointed him shepherd. Frankly, I'm not as concerned about what happens in Sunday school in church as I am with what happens in 'Monday school' and 'Tuesday school' at home with the family."

Sunday, June 1, 2014

BELLE: THE MOVIE

Movie inspired by a painting, 'Belle' is a true story

Wandering the grand halls of Scone Palace in Scotland you might stumble on a pretty portrait of two beautiful women in 18th-century clothes, seemingly affectionate sisters. Not so unusual — except one of the "sisters" is black.

Who is that, you might well wonder, as did Misan Sagay, then a young British college student of Nigerian descent, long accustomed to being the only black face in most British rooms. She stopped short upon spotting the painting while touring the palace near her university.

"I was stunned. And taken aback," says Sagay, now in her 40s and a screenwriter (Their Eyes Were Watching God). The castle brochure named only the white woman in the portrait, Lady Elizabeth Murray. When she returned a few years later, Sagay says, there was more information on the label, naming the black woman as Dido, "the housekeeper's daughter."

REAL STORY: Movie takes a few liberties

"So the silent black woman had a name," says Sagay. "But I looked at the portrait and the way they were touching, and thought, 'I don't buy this. There is more to this than meets the eye.' "

Indeed there was. Sagay dove into drafty palace archives to learn more, and years later the result is Belle, written on spec by Sagay, directed by Amma Asante, a British woman of Ghananian descent, and starring Gugu Mbatha-Raw,a British woman of South African descent.

An elegantly rendered costume drama that opened Friday, Belle tells a true story only lately becoming better known in Britain and remarkable in its details: An illegitimate biracial child, Dido Elizabeth Belle, born to a British admiral and a former slave he loved, is brought up as an orphaned, beloved member of her father's aristocratic family in 1770s Jane Austen-era England. She is so beloved she is painted as an equal with her white sister/cousin, in marked contrast to the usual subservient poses of black people in paintings of the era.

The movie shows how Dido's close relationship with the great-uncle who raised her, William Murray, first Earl of Mansfield and the Lord Chief Justice of Britain, influences his rulings that later led to the end of slavery in the British Empire.

David Appleby, Fox Searchlight Pictures

Elizabeth (Sarah Gadon, left) and Dido (Gugu Mbatha-Raw) in the true story "Belle."

Wait, how did we not know about this? And is it true?

It's true, the filmmakers say, in all the important aspects. And it's true in showcasing Mansfield's role in paving the way for the landmark 1833 British law abolishing slavery.

If this year's Oscar winner for best picture, 12 Years a Slave, was a British film about a little-known American slavery story, then Belle is a British film about the British experience of grappling with slavery — only with fabulous clothes, legal drama, a star-crossed love story, and a Downton Abbey-style setting. It's also got a Downton Abbey star, Penelope Wilton (Isobel Crawley), plus Oscar winner Tom Wilkinson, Miranda Richardson and Emily Watson.)

Along the way, the filmmakers explore the status of women, the insurance value of slaves, English class prejudices, and the way marriages among the toffs could be negotiated with an intensity akin to billion-dollar hedge-fund deals.

Americans will recognize another story Belle tells, about the contrasting facts of slavery in the two countries at the time: America had to fight a war to rid itself of slavery and the Brits passed a law. Britain had no plantations on its home soil and, according to historians, there were only about 15,000 black people in London at the time, most paid servants. Britain was as dependent as America on a slave economy but it was a faraway trade most didn't have to confront face to face.

"What I went for in the script was truth," says Sagay, who says she had long wanted to write a "Jane Austen slavery drama" to depict how British society of that era was built on its slave trade. "Even if it takes liberties with some facts, it doesn't take liberties with what people feel."

"We tried to not create anything that distorts the truth or takes anything away, but hopefully will illuminate," says director Asante, 44, a former child actress in Britain and a screenwriter (Brothers & Sisters) in the USA.

Paula Byrne, a historian of the era and biographer of Jane Austen (an acquaintance of Lady Elizabeth Murray), says she can understand why moviegoers might be both fascinated and skeptical of the story.

"As historians, we're always worried about what (movie) people do, but I was moved by (Belle)," she says. "At first I thought I might have done other things with it but now I think they actually did the right thing."

The people most thrilled about Belle are members of the Murray family of Scotland, descendants of Earl Mansfield and owners of Scone Palace (900 years old, where early kings of Scotland were crowned). That is where the 1779 painting of Dido and Elizabeth still hangs.

"Historically, (the filmmakers) have done really, really well — my father was really worried, he thought it might be a complete shambles and he was pleasantly surprised," says William Murray, 25, Master of Stormont, the future 10th Earl of Mansfield and a family consultant on the film.

The Murrays are especially pleased that their ancestors' stories (Dido's was largely unknown even to them for centuries) are coming to light, and being added to British school curricula, Murray says.

"(Dido's) story is unbelievable — it went against every social convention of the time," says Murray. "We are so glad the story of the first earl is coming to the screen, because he was a most remarkable man. His (legal) legacy is very active today but he's one of the forgotten (great) men of history."

Mansfield is regularly cited in court rulings to this day, including U.S. court rulings. But few people know about Dido, and that's what Belle intends to correct — albeit with liberal use of imagination since not that much is recorded about her life, even in family archives.

In fact, though the painting is famous among art lovers as one of the first to depict a black person as equal to a white, it's not even clear who painted it. But it's clear Mansfield commissioned it, which would have been a brave act for the time and place.

"Every tourist who sees it stops, their mouths sort of agape," says Byrne, author of the forthcoming The Real Jane Austen: A Life in Small Things. "Wow. It tells a story. Why is Dido wearing the more expensive ostrich feathers? Why is she carrying a plate of fruit? What is the meaning of the grapes? It's a portrait so natural, so playful and incredibly affectionate, the fact one sister is biracial is not even significant."

The Murrays, whose ancestors for centuries were unclear about (or ignored) Dido's identity, are now hoping to hire an art historian to research the portrait, which aside from everything else is a very good painting with powerful appeal and intriguing details.

"Elizabeth is the English rose in an old-fashioned dress of the old regime, while Dido is wearing the catwalk number — the sophisticated, hot, exotic new look," says Murray. The longtime attribution has since been discounted and "we're desperate to pin down who painted it."

Dido was born in 1761, probably in the British West Indies, and was taken to England at age 6. She was named for her mother, Maria Belle, for the earl's first wife, Elizabeth, and for Dido the Queen of Carthage. "It was the name of a popular play at the time," says Murray. "It was probably chosen to suggest her elevated status. It says: This girl is precious, treat her with respect."

She was educated, literate, and clever enough to serve as her great-uncle's legal secretary. Mansfield mentions her lovingly in his diaries and left her money in his will along with a clear statement about her status. "I confirm to Dido Elizabeth Belle her freedom."

She was treated as an equal member of the family with one exception: She could not join them at dinner when guests were present. The voices of the Mansfield women, white or black, aren't found much in family records, but Sagay found evidence of Dido in the account books

"Quite often if they were buying, say, silk bed hangings, they were buying for two," Sagay says. "I came to understand that he loved her, that the two girls in the portrait were in equal relationship to him, both his great-nieces. He loved both of them but he was very close to Dido."

Asante says she joined the Belle project because Dido so inspired her.

"We know who her parents were, we know she was not allowed to eat with the family, we know the historical writings (where she is mentioned), we know who she married (John Davinier) and that she had children," Asante says. "We sew the historical facts together with dialogue that we made up, but all the important facts come from history."

We also know Dido died young, at age 43. We know her last traceable relative, Harold Davinier, died in 1975, a free white South African living in the era of apartheid. But, intriguingly, Murray says the family now thinks there might also be American descendants of Maria Belle in, of all places, Pensacola, Fla.

"It's the newest layer of the onion," says Murray, who attributes it to the work of University of Florida researchers. "We know in 1766 (Dido's father) bought the lot for her house, she was there at least 10 years, and there may have been more kids (with Dido's father, suggesting their continuing relationship). So that's really exciting."

Remarkable as Dido's story is, so are the actions of the men in her life — her father, her great-uncle, her husband. Why did they counter the rigid conventions of their time, not only about race but about class, illegitimacy and wealth?

Murray suggests it may be that Mansfield empathized with his great-niece as an outsider himself in England — he was a Scot, a Catholic, from a family of supporters of the exiled Stuart kings, and a younger son with little money who later climbed to the top of the elite class.

The answer, so many centuries later, may be unknowable, but Belle suggests the simplest explanation: Love.



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TRIO ON GAITHER GOSPEL SINGS "FARTHER ALONG"

The following link is a video of a trio of girls featured on the Gaither Gospel Hour. The harmony is precious. Reminds me of the Gilbert Girls, way back when...


  Patricia (Tricia), Joan and Andrea Gilbert

Monday, May 26, 2014

WORSHIP OR WILLY WONKA?

Are We Headed For A Crash? Reflections On The Current State of Evangelical Worship

1Last week I spent a couple of days attending the National Worship Leader Conference, hosted by Worship Leader Magazine, featuring many well-known speakers and worship leaders. The conference was held about 15 minutes down the road from me, so it was an opportunity I couldn’t pass up. I’m glad I went.

I met some new people, heard some thought-provoking teaching, enjoyed some good meals and conversations with worship leader friends, and experienced in-person some of the modern worship trends that are becoming the norm in evangelicalism. It was eye-opening in many ways.

Over the last few days I’ve been processing some of what I saw and heard.

Worship Leader Magazine does a fantastic job of putting on a worship conference that will expose the attendees to a wide variety of resources, techniques, workshops, songs, new artists, approaches, teachings, and perspectives. I thought of Mark Twain’s famous quote “If you don’t like the weather in New England, just wait 5 minutes”. The same could be said of this conference. It’s an intentionally eclectic mix of different speakers, teachers, worship leaders, and performers from different traditions, theological convictions, and worship leading philosophies. You’ll hear and see some stuff you like and agree with, and then 5 minutes later you’ll hear and see some stuff you don’t agree with at all.

It’s good for worship leaders to experience this kind of wide-exposure from time to time, and the National Worship Leader Conference certainly provides it.

Yet throughout the conference, at different sessions, with different worship leaders, from different circles, using different approaches, and leading with different bands, I picked up on a common theme. It’s been growing over the last few decades. And to be honest, it’s a troubling theme. And if this current generation of worship leaders doesn’t change this theme, then corporate worship in evangelicalism really is headed for a major crash.

It’s the theme of performancism. The worship leader as the performer. The congregation as the audience. The sanctuary as the concert hall.

It really is a problem. It really is a thing. And we really can’t allow it to become the norm. Worship leaders, we must identify and kill performancism while we can.

It’s not rocket science.

Sing songs people know (or can learn easily). Sing them in congregational keys. Sing and celebrate the power, glory, and salvation of God. Serve your congregation. Saturate them with the word of God. Get your face off the big screen (here’s why). Use your original songs in extreme moderation (heres’s why). Err on the side of including as many people as possible in what’s going on. Keep the lights up. Stop talking so much. Don’t let loops/lights/visuals become your outlet for creativity at the expense of the centrality of the gospel. Point to Jesus. Don’t draw attention to yourself. Don’t sing songs with bad lyrics or weak theology. Tailor your worship leading, and the songs you pick, to include the largest cross-section of your congregation that you can. Lead pastorally.

I am a worship music nerd. I listen to a lot of it. I follow the recent developments. I know who’s out there (sort of). I try to keep up (it’s not easy). Even I didn’t know most of the songs that we were supposed to be singing along to at the conference. I tuned out. I sat down. I Tweeted. I texted my wife. I gave up.

You’re not reading the ramblings of a curmudgeony guy complaining about all the new-fangled things the kids are doing these days, with their drums and tom-toms and electric geetars. You’re reading the heart-cry of a normal guy who’s worried about what worship leaders are doing to themselves and their congregations. People are tuning out and giving up and just watching.

This is not a criticism of the National Worship Leader Conference, though I do think they could make some changes to more intentionally model an approach to worship leading that isn’t so weighted on the performance side. As I said, the conference exposes us to what’s out there in the (primarily) evangelical worship world.

It’s what’s out there that’s increasingly a problem.

Worship leaders: step back. Take a deep breath. Think about it. Do we really want to go down this road? It will result in a crash. Back-up. Recalibrate. Serve your congregations, point them to Jesus, help them sing along and sing with confidence. Get out the way, for God’s sake.



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Tuesday, May 20, 2014

GETTING TO KNOW AN INTROVERT

5 Things Everyone Should Know About Introverts

I’m an introvert to the core, and there’s a good chance that either you or someone you know is, as well. As a child I was called shy, a common misconception about introverts. I remember many times when I would run upstairs and hide when people came to our door. I didn’t want to interact with someone who wasn’t in my immediate comfort zone.

If you happen to be my neighbor, I apologize. I still hide when someone knocks at the door. When I hear a knock and can’t see front door window I become quiet, shush the kids and hide near the window, peeking out. My kids laugh at me. It’s actually a very ridiculous situation.

As I write this, I realize I may have to re-evaluate my sanity and you may be questioning it too. That said, the following five traits are what I consider to be some commonly misunderstood characteristics of introverts, coming from a true introvert herself.

1. Introverts are not just shy.

Shy is a general term given to people who are quiet and don’t open up in crowds. In truth, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people. Being an introvert does not mean being fearful of others. It is more of an internal energy shift that happens when an introvert is surrounded by people not already admitted to her comfort zone.

2. Introverts are not snobs.

This is a challenge for the introverted. It is nearly impossible for an introvert to include herself in groups of people or to just start a random conversation. It’s much easier for introverts to keep to themselves. This does not mean introverts feel superior to others. It simply means they aren’t comfortable in these situations. Remember that energy thing above.

3. Introverts love to be social.

When in a comfortable situation among friends, who have already made the energy cut, introverts can be loud and be lots of fun. Socializing with the right group can actually offer lots of positive energy to an introvert. A word of caution: as soon as a stranger walks into one of these groups, an introvert will very likely fall back to protect her comfort zone.

4. Introverts do become envious at the ease in which others can socialize.

To introverts, just the thought of including themselves in a strange group of people can be almost painful. It can actually be impossible. That doesn’t mean that they don’t occasionally wish to be capable of including themselves in these situations.

5. Introverts are generally very introspective.

When you see introverts sitting quietly by themselves, deep thoughts are probably running through their minds. Sometimes, it’s all this thinking that adds to the difficulty of jumping into a group of people. An introvert’s mind is very powerful, and quite often an introvert thinks too hard about a situation. This makes it hard to relax and let the good energy flow.

The next time you come across someone, even a child, who you think is shy or a snob, think twice about this label. Introverts need understanding. We are all different and need understanding and support. Don’t challenge the introvert and don’t push yourself up on them. Being calm and friendly can work wonders for an introvert.

Introverts unite! It just may have to be in the quiet of our own homes.

Photo Credit: Shutterstock.com

Credits: MindBodyGreen, where this article was originally featured.



Friday, May 2, 2014

SUCCESS AND WHERE IT BEGINS

The start of success is shaking off the thoughts of others and going after your heart.