For much of my life, I, like most people, regarded the pursuit of happiness as largely a selfish pursuit. One of the great revelations of middle age has been that happiness, far from being only a selfish pursuit, is a moral demand.
When we think of character traits we rightly think of honesty, integrity, moral courage, and acts of altruism. Few people include happiness in any list of character traits or moral achievements.
But happiness is both.
Happiness — or at least acting happy, or at the very least not inflicting one’s unhappiness on others — is no less important in making the world better than any other human trait.
With some exceptions, happy people make the world better and unhappy people make it worse. This is true on the personal (micro) and global (macro) planes.
On the micro plane:
Consider the effects of an unhappy parent on a child. Ask people raised by an unhappy parent if that unhappiness hurt them.
Consider the effects of an unhappy spouse on a marriage.
Consider the effects of unhappy children on their parents. I know a couple that has four middle-aged children of whom three are truly extraordinary people, inordinately well adjusted and decent. The fourth child has been unhappy most of his life and has been a never-ending source of pain to the parents. That one child’s unhappiness has always overshadowed the joy that the parents experience from the other three children. Hence the saying that one is no happier than one’s least happy child.
Consider the effects of a brooding co-worker on your and your fellow workers’ morale — not to mention the huge difference between working for a happy or a moody employer.
We should regard bad moods as we do offensive body odor. Just as we shower each day so as not to inflict our body odors on others, so we should monitor our bad moods so as not to inflict them on others. We shower partly for ourselves and partly out of obligation to others. The same should hold true vis a vis moods; and just as we avoid those who do not do something about their body odor we should avoid whenever possible those who do nothing about their bad moods.
The flip side of the damage unhappy people do when they subject others to their unhappiness is the good that people do when they are, or at least act, happy. Just think of how much more you want to help people when you are in particularly happy mood and you realize how much more good the happy are likely to do.
On the macro plane, the case for the relationship between happiness and goodness is as apparent.
It is safe to say that the happiest Germans were not those who joined the Nazi Party. Nor did the happiest Europeans become Communists. And happy Muslims are not generally among those who extol death. The motto of Hamas and other Islamic groups engaged in terror, “We love death as much as [Americans, Jews] love life,” does not appeal to happy Muslims.
Cults, hysteria and mass movements all appeal to the unhappy far more than to the happy. It is one more example of the genius of America’s Founders to include “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” in the Declaration of Independence. No other major civilization so enshrined happiness as a core value. This American belief in the moral and societal merit in pursuing happiness is a major reason America has developed differently than Europe. The American emphasis on happiness is one reason no fanatical political or religious movement, Left or Right, has been able to succeed in America as such movements have repeatedly succeeded in Europe.
The pursuit of happiness is not the pursuit of pleasure. The pursuit of pleasure is hedonism, and hedonists are not happy because the intensity and amount of pleasure must constantly be increased in order for hedonism to work. Pleasure for the hedonist is a drug.
But the pursuit of happiness is noble. It benefits everyone around the individual pursuing it, and it benefits humanity. And that is why happiness is a moral obligation.
But Amos replied, “I’m not a professional prophet, and I was never trained to be one. I’m just a shepherd, and I take care of sycamore-fig trees. But the LORD called me away from my flock and told me, ‘Go and prophesy to my people in Israel.’
JOAN: "I was sound asleep in my apathetic stupor, bothering no one, when God said to me, 'Get up. You've been silent long enough. Don't worry about what you need to say. Your voice will be MY voice, your steps my steps. Do not be afraid of what you don't know. I am Alpha and Omega. I know it all. I will make your feet like hinds feet. I will hasten your pace. I will give you a song in the night. Go into a land that you do not know and where you know no one. I AM will be there, and you will know me there'." JGR Feb 2013
(I have never put that in words before, but that is virtually what I heard 2 years ago when I set out on this bizarre journey to a barren land called politics... or patriotism, whichever you want to call it.)
THE DEAF CULTURE: MICHELE WESTFALL ON BEING DEAF SINCE BIRTH
Michele Westfall was born without hearing. So were her two sons. ITM talked to her about life, sounds and the Deaf culture.
The Deaf culture includes communities affected by deafness, and it’s a natural part of the life of Michele Westfall and her two kids, 8 and 5 years old. In their household ASL – American Sign Language – is the language used to communicate in, and life without sound is no obstacle.
But what’s it really like to never have heard anything, and what is the Deaf culture that seems to be close at heart to Michele and her family?
Interviews That Matter: Do you have any form of perception of what some things might sound like, even if the believed sound is just made up in your mind?
Michele Westfall: Not really. Since I was born deaf, I don’t have the proper frame of reference to know what this or that sound is supposed to sound like. Any sound I hear would be interpreted as “noise” to me.
ITM: But isn’t noise a form of sound too? Do you mean that it would be something annoying to you, or what does “noise” sound like?
MW: You’re right. It’s more like gibberish that doesn’t make sense to me. That’s the best way I can put it. It’s gibberish that I cannot use or do anything with, so its usefulness is nil.
ITM: Can you hear yourself thinking?
MW: No. But I can see and feel myself thinking.
ITM: Can you elaborate?
MW: I’ve been a visual being since birth. I don’t hear a voice in my head when I think. When I think, I see ASL signs in my head. Sometimes I see images or words. In other words, my “voice” is visual, not sound-based.
ITM: Are there some sounds that you would really like to know what they’re like?
MW: Not really. I don’t go around thinking or wishing I was hearing. I’m happy and comfortable with who I am.
When I think, I see ASL signs in my head.
ITM: What aspects of everyday life are different for you compared to life for the rest of us?
MW: I don’t own any radio or sound equipment such as stereo. All of the television sets in my house have the caption feature permanently turned on. The fire alarm in my house is a visual type. It will flash a strobe-like light if there’s a fire.
Everyone in my house is deaf and speaks ASL. Other than that, we live like the “rest of you” do. We cook, we clean, we play, we argue, we talk, and go about our daily lives like y’all do.
ITM: Now I feel embarrassed for differentiating “you” and “the rest of us”. Do people often label or judge you?
MW: It’s human nature to label, categorize, and judge. The danger is when people use labels, categories, or judgments to discriminate against certain people or to oppress certain people.
My culture and my language are often disrespected or disregarded daily. That has to stop because it’s wrong. They have existed for centuries, and I would like to be able to enjoy my life instead of spending my time and my energy defending my culture and my language. Deaf people have better things to do with our time, you know.
Michele Westfall, 47, grew up in Maryland, USA. She has a Bachelor’s degree in English and works as a writer/editor for a publishing company called ASL Rose. Her family is currently based in Austin, Texas.
ITM: You have two deaf kids. Is it genetic?
MW: Yes, it’s genetic for us. My kids and I have a recessive gene called connexin-26. We were born deaf, and we regard it in the same manner anyone would regard being born a blonde or being born brown-eyed. It’s just who we are and is a part of our identity.
Just so you know, there are 300-plus deaf-related genes, so it’s clear to me that we are meant to be here. I know some Deaf people who come from multi-generational Deaf lineage. We’re the “first generation” Deaf in our family.
ITM: What was it like when you grew up? Is it harder or easier for your kids?
MW: I was lucky. My parents are hearing, but they were advised to learn sign language and to send me to a school for the deaf. I had a great childhood because I was able to grow up with other Deaf children. I could talk with them, play with them, argue with them, and be on equal terms with them. I was part of the Deaf community – and still am.
I was able to participate in school activities such as acting in school plays, being editor of the school yearbook, and serving on the school student body government. I wasn’t seen as “different”.
In some ways my kids have it easier, because their parents are Deaf and native ASL speakers. From the start, they were celebrated as Deaf beings, since we were not sad that they were Deaf. We did not spend any time grieving or adjusting. We were able to focus on raising them and fully enjoy the process of seeing their development as Deaf beings.
ITM: Did it still come as a surprise, or did you know before they were born?
MW: Being culturally Deaf, we of course hoped for Deaf children. The day after giving birth to my older son, I noticed that he was the only baby in the hospital nursery who didn’t cry. All other babies were crying their heads off, but not my son. I knew at that moment he had to be Deaf and we were delighted.
Approximately a year later, we had our DNA’s checked, and we learned we had the connexin-26 gene, which meant that no matter how many times we got pregnant, we would always have Deaf children.
I come from a hearing family, and my ex only had three distant Deaf cousins, so we thought our chances of having Deaf children were something like a million to one.
I don’t own any radio or sound equipment.
ITM: Have you ever had to tell your kids to quiet down?
MW: Sure. I have hearing neighbors, after all.
ITM: How about to listen up, or to be louder?
MW: My kids are chatterboxes who ply me with questions and comments in ASL constantly, so they’re “loud” enough as it is. As for listening up…well, when they don’t get their way, they pout and close their eyes or turn their head away. The minute they close their eyes or turn their head away, they stop “listening”.
I simply tap them on their shoulder to get their attention and they know that’s when they have to listen to their Mom!
ITM: There’s a famous and quite emotional Youtube clip of a grown woman who, with the help of a machine, hears her husband for the first time. If it was possible for you, would you have liked to do the same to be able to hear your kids?
MW: No. Keep in mind, just hearing a sound is not the same as having full understanding of what it is. The grown woman in the Youtube clip heard her husband, yes. But does it mean that she would then suddenly become a full-fledged “hearing” person? No. That’s not going to happen. It doesn’t work that way.
It would send my children a clear message that I was not comfortable with myself.
The reality never lives up to the hype, and is not worth doing. Additionally, as a Deaf person who views myself as a culturally Deaf person, what message does it say to my children if I were to do this? It would send my children a clear message that I was not comfortable with myself as a Deaf person and that “being hearing is better”, when both messages are untrue.
I want my children to be comfortable with themselves and that’s the most important gift or message I can convey to them. I wouldn’t ever want them to feel that they had to change themselves just for the sake of meeting the standards of a non-deaf society.
ITM: How do people react when they realize you can’t hear them?
MW: I don’t hide who I am, so people know right away that I’m deaf. Most of them have been cool about it. That’s the majority of the curve, but as with any curve, there are extremes.
I once got on an elevator and there was this good-looking hearing guy standing next to me. He said something to me and I couldn’t understand him. I told him in ASL that I was Deaf, and his expression immediately changed. He then started to move away from me, as far as he could, within the confines of the elevator. I had to fight an urge to touch him and tell him that it was “catching”, as a joke.
Another example: My children and I once went into a restaurant in South Carolina and we were taken to our table. When our waiter came to take our order, we pointed to various items on the menu and he seemed to understand what we wanted. Our order came, and we realized the waiter had gotten it all wrong. It wasn’t even close.
We tried again to tell him what we wanted, and we realized that our waiter’s brain had frozen so completely that he couldn’t process what we were telling him. He had that deer-in-the-headlights look. We eventually gave up and ate our second order, which was also wrong.
Fortunately, we don’t run into these types of extremes that often.
ITM: It must be bizarre for you finding yourself in those situations. How should people handle meeting a deaf person? Any advice for them?
MW: It’s nothing to get all worked up about. Just stay cool and use paper and pen or text with your smart phone. If you happen to know some sign language, great. Using it will improve your fluency, and most Deaf people are usually happy to help you practice what you know.
ITM: Any advice for parents of deaf children?
MW: First of all, let me offer you congratulations on having your Deaf child! There is no need to be sad, upset, or to grieve. It’s not a tragedy. You’ve been given a unique opportunity to have access to a visual society populated by visual beings. Your Deaf child is a visual being and needs to have visual access to language in order to acquire a language.
To paraphrase a famous quote, if you expect a fish to ride a bicycle, it will grow up thinking it’s stupid. Don’t do that to your Deaf child. Start learning sign language and speak it with your child at all times. Make sure the entire family learns sign language, and seek Deaf role models or establish relationships with Deaf adults, as they’re the experts.
10 Tips From The Most Organized Woman On The Internet
When we get caught in an organizing conundrum, we often find ourselves asking "What would Jen Jones do?"
Jen is the creator of the super-helpful blog I Heart Organizing, and has given her readers an excellent education in smart storage and pretty home design. We asked her for her best get-it-done decluttering secrets, so you could recreate her organizing philosophy in your home.
1. Write down your intentions before you organize a space. Especially when you're tackling an entire room, you need a clear vision before you begin tossing and sorting. If you don't have one, your goals will get muddled midway through the project.
"I like to begin by writing down what my hang ups are about a space, and what problems I'd like to solve," Jen says. "I aim for three keys points I know I want to touch on, otherwise it's easy to get lost in the process."
By touching on your intentions at every point of indecision (Should I toss this old sweater? Should I put my calendar on this wall?), you can create a space that works well for you, and doesn't try to accomplish too much.
2. Don't cling to a system that doesn't work. For a while, Jen's white whale was an organized entryway. She tried shoe shelves in a hall closet, but it was too far from the door. Then she tried shoe baskets in the foyer, but they kept getting in the way. Instead of forcing a broken system on her family, Jen kept looking for another solution. Eventually, she found the perfect narrow shoe cabinet (from IKEA), which minimizes clutter and doesn't require her kids to carry their shoes down the hall.
Which brings Jen to her next point …
3. A system with too many steps won't work. "It took me a long time to figure this out, but if your process is too complex, it will fail," says Jen. So avoid the urge to place stuff in dividers, which are in boxes that are hidden in drawers that are all the way in the basement … you see our point.
4. Sometimes you need a better process, not another storage bin. "I could have a laundry room system that involves several sorting baskets, but they'd take up so much space," says Jones. Instead, she's worked out a daily laundry routine that minimizes big loads and takes a forgiving "good enough" attitude toward endless sorting.
5. Organizing isn't expensive — clutter is. "I hear all the time from people that they think organizing is too pricey," Jen says. "But really, the act of organizing is free (old shoeboxes are often my favorite for storage), and you can even make money doing it. Are you spending cash on a storage space to keep things you never look at? Or is your cluttered system costing you valuable time everyday? Think about it, and you might be surprised."
6. In a small space, go vertical. "Bookcases are my favorite pieces of furniture for organizing," Jen says. We agree — their height offers up a ton of storage where there was once just a blank wall, and wide shelves are helpful for holding everything from clothes to bins to, well, books.
7. Don't forget about the backs of doors. "Backs of cabinets and doors are a great place to get creative," says Jen. Add a hook or a basket to gain instant (and often hidden!) storage space.
8. Clear out an entire space before you do a big organizing overhaul. "I always start with a blank slate," Jen says. "It just feels better to start fresh, and it forces you to be very selective about what gets put back into the room or drawer."
9. Make your bins and boxes look pretty. "I cover boxes with contact paper in pretty patterns for a few reasons," says Jen. "First, decorative element acts as extra motivation for staying organized. And I also want my home to have a cohesive, lived-in feel. I want everything to make me happy."
10. Tackle problems that influence your daily life first. "Our cluttered storage room is a thorn in my side, but because it doesn't really affect my everyday routine, I chose to organize other spaces first," Jen says. "Think about what's eating up most of your energy, and focus on finding those solutions."
As a wife and mother in a small 18th century English parish Susanna Wesley herself received little recognition for how she managed her household, raised and educated more than a dozen children and coped with a sometimes impecunious, idealistic and occasionally difficult clergyman husband. Yet from her personal influence and loving home came a son who would experience a spiritual awakening and use that inspiration to begin a ministry that would fill a void in the national spiritual life and also develop into a world wide church. Indeed, it might be said that the movement called Methodism had its foundations in the home of Susanna Wesley.
Born on January 20, 1669, as the daughter of a London pastor and the youngest of 25 children, Susanna Annesley was quite familiar with both a clergyman’s household and large families.
Seven years before Susanna was born the Church of England asserted its supremacy over the other English Protestant “Non-Conformist” or “Dissenting” churches. With the 1662 Act of Uniformity, all Church of England ministers were required to support the Book of Common Prayer or be forced out of their parishes and banned from preaching in an Anglican pulpit. When some 2000 refused they were forced from their parishes, homes and university positions leaving many to make a living by teaching, writing or preaching where they could.
Susanna was educated at home, with her lessons supplemented by the intellectual atmosphere of her father’s many scholarly visitors. One of these was the son of a Dissenting minister, Samuel Wesley, then a student.
Born in 1662, Samuel had come from a background of poverty since his Dissenting father had been deprived of his parish. However, after much thought Samuel decided to affiliated with the Church of England and because of that decision he was able to attend Oxford University where he lived on an extremely limited budget with little luxury.
Samuel Wesley was ordained in 1689 and he and Susanna, who had also decided to affiliate with the Anglican Church, were married soon after when she was 20 and he was 28.
As a new clergyman Samuel would encounter a national spiritual apathy for English religious devotion was at an all time low. Many had developed a belief in Deism, seeing God as a withdrawn and disinterested Creator and devotion to God had been replaced by cold logic and church services had become dull and dry. Following his ordination and marriage, Samuel served other parishes before 1696 when he came to Epworth in the North Lincolnshire area, the church he would serve most of his life. Also during this time Susanna had had seven children in those seven years, three of who died.
The Epworth area was primarily rural in economy and in mindset, and for Samuel as a city minded scholar it proved difficult. He was a rigid and moralistic pastor and some parishioners responded with occasional hostility. Samuel also lacked business sense so it was left up to Susanna to manage the household and business expenses – and all with no word of criticism for Samuel.
More children were born in the next few years, but many did not survive. For Susanna, “churching” – the Prayer Book’s “Service of Thanksgiving Following Childbirth” – was an annual occasion. Ten of Susanna’s eventual nineteen children lived to maturity, making for a large family to raise and educate while she carried out all her other household responsibilities. Yet Susanna accomplished it well and often with only just servant.
One scholar described the Wesley children as “a cluster of bright, vehement, argumentative boys and girls, living by a clean and high code, and on the plainest fare; but drilled to soft tones, to pretty formal courtesies; with learning as an ideal, duty as an atmosphere and fear of God as law.”
However, Samuel and Susanna were both strong characters each with definite opinions and while they were devoted to each other there were occasions when they had marital difficulties. For example, one time royal politics entered their home life and caused a separation.
Susanna was a strong supporter of the Stuart King James who had been overthrown in 1688 and replaced by William, his Dutch son-in-law. In 1702 when in family prayers Samuel prayed for King William Susanna refused to say “Amen.” She was, as her son John described it later, “inflexible”, and Samuel was equally so.
“Sukey,” he told her as he left home. “We must part for if we have two kings we must have two beds.” Susanna asserted that she would apologize if she was wrong but she felt to do so for expediency only would be a lie and thus a sin. Eventually after five months and the death of King William Samuel returned home and from their reconciliation was born John in 1703.
The Wesleys had many challenges over the years, again occasionally caused by some parishioners’ opposition to Samuel as pastor. At times some locals would demonstrate their displeasure by mocking the children, burning the family crops, damaging the rectory and abusing the family cows and dog. Then in 1705 when they disagreed with Samuel’s political choices a group of villagers harangued the parsonage all night in Samuel’s absence – shouting, drumming and firing guns and with Susanna just recovering from the birth of her sixteenth child. Unfortunately, the baby’s nurse was so exhausted after all the commotion she lapsed into a deep sleep and rolled over on the baby smothering it.
Another time a parishioner demanded immediate payment of a debt that Samuel could not pay so he had the pastor imprisoned. At home Susanna struggled to manage on a reduced budget while Samuel became self-appointed pastor to his fellow prisoners. The church eventually paid the debt and Samuel returned home.
Then in 1709 there occurred another tragedy that affected the family but also endangered John – then a small boy. On February 9, 1709 the Epworth rectory caught on fire and though John later considered it set by vindictive neighbors it could well have been accidental. With their home in flames the family scrambled to safety including Susanna who was expecting what would be her last child. However, when the family assembled they were missing one – six year old John. Then after they spotted him standing in a window, a neighbor lifted another man to his shoulders so the second man could snatch little John to safety just seconds before the roof fell in. John saw his deliverance as God’s work and for many years referred to himself as a literal “brand snatched from the burning.”
Yet though the family was safe they realized the fire had destroyed not just the house but also all the contents including family papers and Samuel’s library. The rectory was rebuilt but while it was under construction the family was separated by staying with various relatives.
To manage such a large household and properly educate her children Susanna established a definite routine for her household and family, aiming to help each child learn, mature and develop Christian character. At a time when severe physical punishment was a standard part of education Susanna’s policy was “strength guided by kindness.” She gave each child individual attention by purposely setting aside a regular time for each of them. Later John wrote his mother fondly remembering his special time with her.
In 1711 Samuel’s absence and Susanna’s attempts to meet the spiritual needs of her family caused another family difficulty. Samuel was attending a long church conference leaving his pulpit in charge of another minister, a Mr. Inman. However, the man proved a poor choice since his almost constant sermon topic was paying one’s debts when he owed many. Some saw this as a slap at Samuel.
Since there were no afternoon church services, Susanna began an evening family gathering where they sang psalms, prayed and Susanna read a short sermon from her husband’s library. It began with the family and the servants but soon word spread and others neighbors appeared, and soon there were too many for the parsonage. Susanna had written her husband of what she was doing, but then in his own letter when he perhaps saw the services as competition, Mr. Inman complained to Samuel. His claim to Samuel was that such irregular services could cause criticism or even scandal for the church. For while women have been ordained in many Methodist churches for more than 50 years at that time the idea of a woman having any part in a worship service – even in her own home – was unheard of. Samuel suggested to Susanna that she have someone else read the sermons, but still Mr. Inman complained and finally Samuel told Susanna to discontinue the meetings. However, she declined as she described how the meetings were a genuine and effective ministry to those who attended and that Mr. Inman was about the only one who‘d objected. The services continued.
As his health slowly failed, Samuel continued to work on his life long project – a book called “Dissertations on the Book of Job.” Though Samuel hoped its publication would assure his family’s financial security it did not prove so. Written in Latin, the ponderous and scholarly account did not appeal to the average reader. Samuel could possibly have been more successful by writing shorter and more popular pieces, but he preferred to devote his talents to what he considered a high level of scholarship.
After Samuel passed away on April 5, 1735 when John had paid his debts Susanna had very little. For the rest of her life she would depend on her children.
Soon after with Susanna settled in a daughter’s home, John and Charles Wesley joined a group of colonists settling in Georgia. For some time they had been searching for spiritual fulfillment and through various experiences in America and after their return to England they finally found the peace and assurance they sought. Their conversion not only fulfilled them spiritually but also inspired them to begin the preaching and outreach that would be a part of their new ministry, dubbed Methodism after a “methodical” religious routine John had developed while at Oxford. In 1740 John moved Susanna into the center of this new ministry in London, a former cannon factory known as the Foundery. The large building held chapels, a school, a clinic, and living quarters for John and other workers. Susanna would spend her final days among loving people involved in a new ministry and with her other children nearby. Then as the end neared and with her family around her, she instructed them: “Children, as soon as I am released sing a psalm of praise to God.” She passed away July 23, 1742.
Susanna’s place in Christian history is indeed based on what her sons accomplished but it could be said to have been her example and influence that helped them to do what they did. Susanna’s best legacy was indeed her children, particularly John. For it was in the Epworth parsonage that he acquired the focused leadership that would empower and inspire the man who “represents the force which has most profoundly affected English history,” as one scholar put it, referring to the 18th century.
Indeed, a great legacy from a woman who expressed a simple desire: “I am content to fill a little space if God be glorified.” A quote that has power, instead of a television doctor who calls a new diet pill the "Holy Grail of weight loss" driving mad skepticism. It led to sites like http://garciniasideeffect.com helping the public understand complicated information.
Currently on the staff of St. Luke’s United Methodist Church in Houston, Anne is a freelance writer/teacher. She has published devotionals, fiction and non-fiction, and her book “Brittany, Child of Joy” was issued from Broadman Press in 1985. She holds two degrees in history and has taught on the junior college level.
How To Deal With The Daily Deluge Of Emails (And Get The 'Real' Work Done)
Let me paint a picture for you. Your day is chock full of meetings, between which you frantically try to catch up on emails and respond to everyone’s requests. Your tight schedule forces you to get back online at night to finish work after you’ve had dinner or put your kids to bed.
This leaves you feeling exhausted and as though you’ve never done enough at the end of each day. You can’t seem to get any “real” work done during the day. Does this sound familiar?
Here are five tips and some sample templates to help you efficiently deal with the daily deluge of emails and get the real work done.
1. No Email In The Morning
DO NOT check email the first hour of the day. If you want to be really productive, do not check email for the first three hours of the day. As you practice this act of self-discipline, you will be astounded at how much more productive you are.
It’s really hard to turn off work for entrepreneurs. The solution is to use discipline and set rules for oneself. One CEO I interviewed shared “I set rules for myself like I’m not going to stay past a certain time, I’m going to leave my computer at work. I set a schedule for what hours I’m supposed to be here. Every Thursday I come in at 11am so I can stay home and have breakfast with my wife and son and then I stay late that night, I just shift my schedule. Setting a schedule is important. It’s also important to separate the urgent from the important. There is always stuff to get done.”
Each evening before you go to bed, ask yourself “What are the three most important things I need to do tomorrow to move my career and company forward?” Write these down. The next morning, instead of checking email, work on these three things first.
Many entrepreneurs I speak with have difficulty prioritizing because there is so much uncertainty. They have a hard time choosing which three things to focus on in a given day. It’s normal to feel uncertain, simply pick your top three priorities and complete them that day.
Part of the game is making a commitment and moving forward even if you aren’t sure if it’s the “right” step. As long as you’re taking action on what you believe at the time to be a top priority, you will move your business forward. You may learn that the priorities need to change, but the only way to truly determine this is to start taking action today.
Saying no takes practice. Try it out with a simple situation first. You may not do it as gracefully or confidently as you would like in the beginning, but you will get better with practice. First Round Partner Bill Trenchard suggests having a ‘No template’ such as this one:
Hi Bill, Great to hear from you. I hope all is well. Fortunately, my company is starting to take off, and I’m under extreme pressure to deliver against some ambitious goals. I go to a lot of social events, but unfortunately I won’t be able to connect right now.
Best, Josh
5. Bulk Task.
Take certain mundane tasks such as paying bills, responding to email, and filling out forms, and bulk task them. Rather than constantly distracting yourself in small increments of time, set aside a chunk of time to complete all these small tasks at once.
It can help to set specific times of day during which you will be checking and responding to emails. For example, check email at 10am and 4pm and spend thirty to sixty minutes responding to emails at each of those times. For the rest of the day, do not check email. If you’re afraid of missing something urgent, you can give people the option to reach out to someone else or call you directly by sending an auto-responder such as this one, provided by Tim Ferriss:
Sample Autoresponder:
Due to high workload, I am currently checking and responding to email twice daily at 10am and 4pm EST [insert your time zone].
If you require urgent assistance that cannot wait until either 10am or 4pm, please contact me via phone at 555-555-5555.
Thank you for understanding this move to more efficiency and effectiveness. It helps me accomplish more to serve you better.
Yours Sincerely, xxx
I actually used this very email template myself, inserting a line at the beginning that said “I’m doing a productivity experiment for one month…” because I was too nervous to have it sound permanent. The results were amazing! I got so much more work done, and best of all, many people responded saying that they respected what I was doing and were inspired by the idea.
Try these five techniques out for yourself and let me know in the comments below what you think.
