12 Things You Should Give Up If You Want To Be Successful
The sooner you can ditch these, the better.
When it comes to "achieving success," the hardest thing for people to wrap their heads around tends to be this idea of small wins adding up to big victories. It's a whole lot easier to imagine the end goal, the big celebration, than it is each tiny step along the way it will actually take in order to get there.
But once you've walked that path, once you've seen and experienced first hand how its the small things you do, day after day after day, that lead to the end result, your thinking is forever changed. You couldn't go back if you tried. And your focus suddenly is no longer on the daydream at the end, but the little habits you can set in stone today that will lay the necessary groundwork for that destination to manifest on its own.
If you want to create positive daily habits in your life, then you're going to need to remove some negative ones to make room. The sooner you can ditch these 12 destructive habits, the faster you will find yourself on the path to success:
1. Sugar. Nothing gives you a quicker burst of energy and a quicker crash than sugar. If you are one of those people who eats a big helping of fruit for breakfast, no wonder you're chugging coffee two hours later to stay awake. Keep sugars in your diet to a minimum, and retrain your body to find energy in longer-lasting carbohydrates (like oatmeal for breakfast).
2. Short-term thinking. If you are always making decisions based on what you want right now, you will never reach whatever it is you want down the road. You have to find a balance: what you have to do in the short term, and what you ultimately want to build in the long term.
3. The belief in overnight success. This past year I accumulated over 20M views on all my writing online-and honestly that's a low estimate. A bunch of people I haven't talked to in years reached out to me and said, "Wow man! You blew up overnight!" No, it didn't happen overnight. This is almost ten years in the making. There is no such thing as overnight success. Stop daydreaming about it and start putting in the work today that will yield the result you want somewhere down the road.
4. The snooze alarm. Each night, when you set your alarm for the next morning, you are making a promise to yourself. You are saying, "I promise to wake up at this time and start my day with energy and excitement." And then your alarm goes off, you rub your eyes, look at the clock, and decide to hit snooze. You are breaking your first promise of the day before you've even gotten out of bed. Don't do that. IT's bad for morale.
5. Let go of perfectionism. At some point, no amount of editing, re-thinking, or going back to the drawing board is going to make whatever it is you're working on any better. It's far more advantageous of you to create and pump out volume. This will allow you to learn faster, and build yourself in the public domain in the process. Focus on doing the best you can, right now, and then let it go and move on to the next thing.
6. Saying "Yes" to things you don't actually want to do. Your gut is telling you No, so why aren't you listening?
7. Multi-tasking. There is no such thing as multi-tasking--this is something I write about a lot. You can truly only do one thing at a time, and by splitting your focus and trying to do two different things simultaneously, you end up doing yourself a disservice. As the old adage goes, "Chase two rabbits, lose both."
8. Coping mechanisms. With this, you have to be your own judge. Do you avoid work by sitting on your couch and scrolling endlessly through Instagram? Do you avoid thinking about things that bother you by watching Netflix? Whatever it is you "cope" with, keep a close eye on it--and if it ends up getting too in the way of your goals, ditch it.
9. Negative people. It's a simple question of whether the relationships in your life are "working" or "not working." If people are bringing unnecessary negativity into your life, then you need to re-asses your time spent with them. And if they end up doing you a disservice, then let them go.
10. Blame. Blaming other people does you no good. It is nothing more than a distraction, postponing your asking the right questions in order to effectively move forward. Instead, point the finger at yourself and look for ways you could have handled things better and how you can improve for next time.
11. Staying stuck in the "go" mentality. Too many people view time off and self reflection as a waste of time. They feel like they always need to be going or working on something. Now, I am all for goal setting and pushing yourself to become the best at whatever it is you do, but do remember the clarity that comes with self reflection. Sometimes, one step back is what you need to do in order to move five steps forward.
12. Spending unnecessary money. I'm sorry, but if you are buying tables at clubs (especially if you are still knee-deep in your building years) or using spending as a foundation for your self worth, then you are on the fast track to unhappiness. Real wealth is built through saving and investing--not blowing it as fast as you acquire it. Be a boss. Stack, invest, stack, invest.
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